A bold declaration: love knows no bounds, and neither should weddings! Today, we explore the unique journey of Janie, Margaret, and Cody, a throuple who defied societal norms to celebrate their love in a way that felt true to them.
On a dreamy October afternoon in Chattanooga, Tennessee, this trio exchanged vows in a ceremony that was as unconventional as it was beautiful. But here's where it gets controversial: they couldn't legally marry, yet they found a way to make their union official in their eyes and the eyes of their loved ones.
Margaret, a marketing director and owner of Margaret French Presents, explains, "We wanted to show the world that our love is real and legitimate. We've been together almost a decade, and this ceremony was our way of celebrating that."
But how did they navigate the complexities of planning a wedding for three? And what challenges did they face along the way?
Getting Together:
Margaret and Cody met on Tinder in 2016 and quickly became a couple. After a year of being best friends with benefits, they invited Janie into their relationship. It was a gradual process, with each person falling in love at their own pace.
The Proposal:
In 2022, the throuple got engaged. Janie, who had picked out her ring, was in on the surprise, but the timing and execution were still a delightful mystery.
Bachelorette(s) Party:
Instead of a traditional bachelorette party, they opted for a big celebration in New Orleans, inviting 22 people to an Airbnb for a weekend of fun. Cody, a self-proclaimed Dungeons and Dragons enthusiast, had his own low-key celebration with his buddies.
Planning the Wedding:
Janie took charge of the logistics, ensuring everything ran smoothly, while Margaret focused on the aesthetics, creating a fairytale-like atmosphere. They had weekly family meetings to stay on track and manage their budget.
The Wedding Day:
Without a bridal party, the day was more relaxed and focused on the couple's emotions. Margaret and Janie walked down the aisle together, with Cody's dad and Margaret's mom escorting them. They created a unique ceremony, exchanging rings three times and sharing four kisses.
Their first dance was a hilarious mess, but it was a moment they'll cherish forever.
What They Learned:
Margaret's advice to other polyamorous couples is to be selfish and make the wedding about their love. Janie adds, "Don't invite anyone you wouldn't buy dinner for."
And this is the part most people miss: love isn't always a fairy tale, but it's always worth celebrating in your own unique way.
What do you think about polyamorous weddings? Is it a concept you can get behind, or does it challenge your traditional views? We'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments!
